Confidence: Finding It and Living It by Barb DeAngelis is one of those self help books which always strike me as little schlocky. By schlocky I mean that the author takes some idea and then beats it to death for 300 pages and then charges the book buyer $8.95 or whatever to read the idea restated about 20 different times with tons of anecdotes thrown in to exemplify the point.
Barb DeAngelis keeps it fairly short as she redefines "confidence" as perserverence. She says that confidence is not based on the ability to do something but rather in the determination and committment to keep trying to do something. Cute, huh?
With her redefinition she says anybody can have confidence immediately. All you have to do is determine how bad you want something to happen, and to be willing to talk yourself into pursuing the goal no matter what and being willing to figure out how to achieve the goal as you go along.
I must admit I like her definition and it reminds me of one of the components of Emotional Intelligence as Daniel Goleman defines it in his book by the same name, perserverence. It seems that people who are "emotionally intelligent" and who become successful in life have the capacity to perservere in the face of obstacles until they achieve their goal.
Dr. DeAngelis's book is worth the read I think.