What happy people know #1
Most of us are familiar with the Golden Rule which is “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
But do you know the Platinum Rule? Happy people know the platinum rule which is “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.”
That is, treat other people the way that they want to be treated, not the way that you want to be treated, because they are not you. They may have different values, opinions, beliefs and practices, and they want to be treated in accord with their preferences not with yours.
I think the Golden Rule, while well intentioned, is very misguided and leads to tremendous amount of misunderstandings. When those misunderstandings occur, the well intentioned person cannot understand where they went wrong.
Teaching children and adults the skill of empathy would decrease a lot of the misery in the world. Empathy means that you put yourself in the other person’s shoes and treat them accordingly.
Happy people have the skill of empathy and operate by the Platinum Rule. Daniel Goleman in his book, Emotional Intelligence, describes the importance of the skill of empathy for life success.
If you want to be happy learn to be empathic, and practice the Platinum Rule.
Happy people know this.